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Things to consider when you are facing a divorce

In our latest blog, Maria Parker, our Matrimonial Executive here at Hodgkinsons Solicitors, Skegness, provides some guidance for those facing a divorce by explaining things to consider throughout the process.

Things to consider when you are facing a divorce

Facing a divorce can be a distressing and confusing time, but we are here to help you. Our Team have established an outstanding reputation for providing one to one support and advice that is practical and sensible. There can be much to consider when you are going through a divorce and to provide you with some initial guidance, Maria has outlined 5 initial aspects which you should consider at the outset.  

1. Your children come first

The emotional impact of a divorce can weigh heavily upon children, therefore, decisions should always be made in their best interests. It would particularly be in their best interests if you and your partner could come to an agreement about living arrangements and parenting responsibilities between yourselves, however, this is not always the case. If you and your partner cannot come to an agreement, then either parent may apply to the Court for a decision. Where this is necessary, your Lawyer can help you with this. Even where the divorce may be impacting you, your children face a tough time when their parents separate, no matter their age. This is why it is important that you still consider your actions and how you address their needs during this time.

2. You are making life-long decisions

It is important to remember that the decisions you need to make are for the long-term. Throughout a divorce many difficult decisions will have to be made, and there are often repercussions for these which is why we recommend that you consider your long-term goal for both you and your family, before making any final choices. It is important that you do not make decisions impulsively or based on your emotions as they may not reflect what you truly wish for your future. When you are making important life choices, you need to consider the future implications and logistics to ensure that your decision will not cause difficulties for you later on in life. Your Lawyer will help you by advising on your circumstances and helping you to make decisions which will be in the best interest of everyone.

3. Be efficient, but don’t rush!

We understand that you may wish to get your divorce over and done with. We always aim to settle a divorce in an efficient time frame, whilst ensuring that we achieve the right outcome for you and those involved to enable you to focus on your future. Divorce is an extensive legal administrative procedure, therefore, a strict time limit to settlement cannot be set in stone but you can help to ensure the process runs as smoothly as it possibly can by being proactive, prepared, and by communicating closely with your Lawyer. That being said, it is important that you do not try to rush the process. You should not rush decisions which will impact the rest of your life.

4. Be honest and open with your Lawyer

Reaching a financial settlement is always a cause of considerable concern to anybody contemplating divorce proceedings. The law sets out the criteria which must be considered when formulating financial settlements. This includes your income and earning capacity, savings, housing needs, pensions, the duration of the relationship, the overall contributions, your health, and any other circumstances of the case. It is important that you are honest and open with your Lawyer regarding such information as it will impact the final arrangement and your Lawyer’s ability to secure the best possible outcome for you.

5. Your future

Whilst it may not seem like it right now, the day will come when the divorce is settled, and you can move forward. It is important that you think of your future, to a time when you will feel very differently to how you do right now. Facing a divorce can be one of the most emotional times of your life, so you should take time to focus on yourself and use the prospect of your future as a driving force to keep going. When you are going through a divorce it is important to remember that you are not alone, surround yourself with loved ones, family, and friends where possible.

For over 39 years our Team have helped individuals with their divorce matters throughout the East Midlands, rural Lincolnshire and beyond to include Skegness, Boston, Louth and Lincoln. We understand the sensitivity of such aspects which is why we will always approach your case with careful consideration to those directly affected. 

Maria will always be happy to discuss your case with you and provide you with transparent quotes of our fees in relation to your divorce. If you would like to contact us, please call us on 01754 897150 or submit a contact form and a member of our Team will contact you.